Dear All,
We all must have experienced or witnessed cheating at some point in our lives. I decided to compile this report due to popular demand. I have recieved numerous letters from people worried about their partners faithfulness so I came up with this. This report was compiled from letters recieved, interviews conducted, surveys, research, personal experiences and good old common sense.
Here are the top give-aways
1. Telephone Calls:
Sure, if your other half funs his/her business from home, they may be getting numerous of calls from clients or prospects, so do not immediately jump to the conclusion that they are cheating. What you should really watch out for is a sudden change in their telephone activities. If for example, they suddenly start receiving late night calls when they hardly ever did then that could be a vital indicator of infidelity.
A cheating spouse would usually delete their call history from their phones in an attempt to cover their tracks. If they receive calls and usually need to go to another room to take them then something may be going on.
They may also hang up when you suddenly walk into the room or tell the other person that they’ll call them back later.
Other telephone related signs may be people calling your phone and hanging up. Your competition may have retrieved your number from your spouses phone and call just to hear your voice or find out where you are.
The biggest telephone give-away however is when your spouse suddenly starts hiding their mobile phone. If they suddenly start keeping their phones out of sight then something is definitely wrong. Some women may keep their phones hidden away in their purses while some men may even go to bed with their phones in their pockets.
When your spouse also gets overprotective over their phone, then you need to open your eyes a little bit wider. Do the words “ Don’t ever answer my phone again sound familiar to you?”. Think!
2. Emails and online accounts:
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private, pay attention because something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting their computer activity(computer access, email passwords, networking site passwords etc).
Some might even have email accounts that you weren’t even aware of.
If your spouse it was for an obvious reason known to you. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or being controlling. Big warning sign!
3. Sex :
If your partners sex drive suddenly begins to wane, this could possibly indicate that cheating is occurring, especially if they have never demonstrated this behaviour before. However, you should realise that stress and other problems may also cause a decrease in sex drive so please take this into account.
An increase in sexual desire and sudden willingness to try new things and positions could also be a sign. Where are all these new tricks being learnt?
4. Working Patterns:
A sudden change in working patterns may be a tell tale sign.
Perhaps your partner suddenly starts coming home later than usual or starts going to work earlier you need to take a closer look. It could be that they have suddenly started going out alone, when you two used to spend all of your time together. This could be an indicator of extra-curricular activities. You may want to ask your partner where they are going or where they have been and if he or she becomes defensive, you may want to start looking for other signs.
Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.
Overtime and business trips suddenly become frequent? That could be a sign.
5. Internet
One of the easiest ways to meet people and start illicit relationships is through the internet. With the advances of technology, especially with the advance of the internet, it is easier to seek and find others willing to cheat with you. If your partner starts spending most of their time on the Internet or finds excuses to get on the computer when you are asleep or when you are not at home, this may indicate infidelity. If they becomes secretive about his/her time on the web and start password protecting online accounts, this could be a sign that something is going on.
6. Money:
Unexplained expenses on statements and credit cards acould be a sign that your partner may be cheating. Unexplained charges to restaurants, hotels, shops selling female accessories etc may be suspect. Maybe you pack his lunch every morning but he has been eating out at lunch!!! Does your partner become defensive about these charges when questioned about them?
7. Uneccessary Arguements:
Constantly picking fights with you for no apparent reason
The reason could be that they are simply looking for an excuse to stomp out of the house without having to explain where they are going. That is pure genius!!
8. Unexplained absences:
You find out by accident that they were off work a day they were supposedly meant to be at work..
One questionable but common sign –A sudden change in grooming habits.
Your partner suddenly starts paying special attention to their appearance, start going to the gym, buying new sexy underwear, suddenly investing in a new range of aftershaves or perfumes. This sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance is often linked to cheating or an intention to cheat.
9. Miscellaneous signs:
Spends a lot of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.
Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is irritable and easily moved to anger.
He/she loses attention in the activities in the home and is often deep in thought and absent minded.
You find condoms when you do not use them.
Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
Has unexplained scratches, bites or bruises on his or her neck or back.
10. Your Own fears and suspicions
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars.
DELES FINAL THOUGHT:
Just because some of the things in this report seem to fit your own situation, it is not necessarily proof that your spouse is cheating on you. This is simply a comprehensive list of tell tale signs of cheating and is not intended to sow distrust into any ones relationship.
In as much as we do our best to commit to our relationships, we only have control over our own hearts and are often at the mercy of our partners regardless of what we think or say. Cheating is often exciting, thrilling and uplifting but eventually one or two people are going to get hurt.
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