Ask Dele | Your Straight-Talking Agony Uncle
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Hi, I am Dele, your resident Agony Uncle. I give unbiased advice on issues such as Relationship problems, Shyness and other matters of the heart. I am your straight-talking, unconventional Agony Uncle who is here to listen to everyday dilemmas like 'Can I let my wife's boyfriend stay in our spare room? ', or a more complicated 'I wonder why my husband called me tracy last night ' type issue Whatever the problem, from sex and contraception, to infidelity and household jobs, I've got an opinion, and I'm not afraid to share it.Dele
| Visitor: Dear Dele,Why do people cling to the hope that the person that is now their ex is still pining over them, even if you are the one to break it off? How can someone get these thoughts to stop?**Erin |
| Dele: Dear Erin, We all feel better just knowing we are loved by someone else regardless of whether that feeling is mutual or not. It is a nice feeling to know or think that one's ex still adores one, however that thought shouldn't be given as much time of the day as you seem to be giving it. It seems to me that you may still like your ex, hence your obssession with these thoughts (hoping he still feels the same way about you). There is only one way around this. Search your soul and be honest with yourself. Do you still love and want him? If you do, then make your feelings known to him (beg like crazy) else put your mind on more important things and move on. |
| Asked: June 29th, 2008 | Answered: July 3rd, 2008 | Link to this question? |
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| Visitor: Dear Dele, I wish to tell you about my boyfriend, i love him very much but there are things i realise he is doing: 1) I found out that he is living with a woman that is older than him but he lied to me that where he lives is just a favour from that he lives with alot of peopole. I realise the woman has children of his own? 2) He begged me sign-up for car finance in my name which and that he will pay me monthly, which i did. He only paid me for one month and now i am stuck with the finances but not the car has he is driving it around and he does not stop by to see me. 3) I realise from his friends that he has a kid by someone in Africa and married. the kid is in his teens he never mentioned him and does not send money to the kid.I am confuse what should i do.Ola |
| Dele: Dear Ola, If he does not stop by to see you, how can he be your boyfriend? He sounds more like an ex. People lie for different reasons known to them and unless you speak to them and ask why, you may never solve the riddle. I suggest you speak to him for answers to your questions. You are ignoring the main issue which is the act that he doesn't come to see you. Without looking into a crystal ball, that must mean that he doesn't want to be with you honey. It could also mean that he is staying away only because he knows that you have uncovered his secrets. If you still want him despite what he has done to you the you should speak to him. If you have had enough, count your losses and move on. There will be someone else out there that will bring a smile to your face and some joy into your life. |
| Asked: June 26th, 2008 | Answered: July 3rd, 2008 | Link to this question? |
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